14th January 2018

Couples, love and what keeps us together (or not!)

  By Lucy Cavendish   As January progresses and the full enormity of the post-Christmas blues hit, I find myself thinking about how my life has […]
27th November 2017

Endings and how to manage them

People leave but they don’t say goodbye. Sometimes people say goodbye but they don’t leave. When it comes to leaving relationships, the above statements can often […]
10th November 2017

Imposter Syndrome

How to describe imposter syndrome? Let’s take two friends of mine. I have one privately-educated, blue stocking slim blonde, well-spoken friend who is a successful writer. […]
19th October 2017

Marriage – not the traditional version! (from a year ago)

This December, I am getting married. I am 50 years old. I have four children aged between nine and 20. The man I am marrying is […]
25th September 2017

Why friends are important….

There have been two times in my life when I’ve been a single mother; once when I was 31 with one child and then again, many […]
24th August 2017

Love and why it is important

By Lucy Cavendish This time a year ago, I had no idea what was about to happen in my life. I was a single parent with […]
21st July 2017

Agony Aunts interviewed BEL MOONEY Who do you work for? My advice column appears every Saturday in the Daily Mail, over two pages, with a potential readership of […]
3rd July 2017

Body therapy – my experience with Pesso Boyden

  It is a warm and sunny day and I find myself sitting on a beanbag in a light and airy room in a small Oxfordshire […]
25th June 2017

Is single parenthood easier?

SINGLE MOTHERHOOD IS EASIER I am sitting with my friend Annabel having dinner together, our eldest sons, hers aged 13, mine15, are at the table. They […]
20th June 2017

Step Parenting – pitfalls and upsides

  I remember, when I was ten years old, my parents separated. A year later – possibly earlier, I can’t really remember – I was introduced […]
12th June 2017


Imagine this scenario; your best friend, your best friend in the whole wide world, someone you have loved and cherished for quite some time, suddenly has […]
31st May 2017

Why I Won’t spy on my children…from the Times The other day I was out having a coffee with friends. We all have teenage children and we all share the same worries and concerns […]
25th May 2017


Sisters. Sisters. There were never such devoted sisters. That’s how the Irving Berlin songs goes and, when I was little, I remember sitting on the sofa, […]
18th May 2017

The Benefits of Therapy

It was two years ago that I started to go to therapy. I’d dabbled in it before. Over a decade ago I’d seen a man who’d […]
13th May 2017

Teenagers and sex

Ann-Marlene Henning is a Danish neuro-psychologist living in Hamburg. She is a sexologist, TV personality, counsellor relationship specialist. She writes blogs, has her own channel on […]
6th May 2017

Children – boys v girls

I have three boys Raymond 20, Leonard 14 and Jerry 13. I love them all totally and absolutely. And yet, ever since I became pregnant, all […]
27th April 2017

Sex in the therapy room

It was when I was on my training as a Couples Counsellor that I had the revelation – we don’t, as therapists, like to talk about […]
27th April 2017

My Father , the Alcoholic – childhood traits of growing up with addiction.

As a child, I didn’t know my father was an alcoholic. Like most families, the true nature of what was going on was hidden. So, although […]
10th April 2017

How to have a happy workforce

Shamil and Kavi Thakrar, the duo behind the incredibly successful chain of Indian restaurants Dishoom, are sitting in a booth in their huge Kings Cross restaurant. […]